Should help ever be declined?
Everyone has received or will receive help in some form during their lifetime. Help can be requested, help can be offered, and help can be provided without foreknowledge. It’s my opinion, that you can never get enough help. Help is not a bad thing, and a willingness to ask for help is a sign of strength and courage.
However, CONSIDER ONLY KNOWINGLY ACCEPTING OR ASKING FOR HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT AND AS A LAST RESORT. Declining help and only asking for it when it is needed builds confidence, resiliency, and character.
[Sing it] Some––times in our lives
We all have pain, we all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there’s always tomorrow
Lean on me; when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
‘Til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on
Please, swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you won’t let show
You just call on me, brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on…
–– Bill Withers
“Lean on Me” a classic song that is still relevant today. Yes, we will all need somebody to lean on. The key is determining when you –– NEED –– help. Do not accept or ask for help just because it’s available, that’s an abuse of the person willing to provide the help. If you are capable of doing it on your own ––– DO IT.
I’ve heard the saying, GOD helps those who help themselves, while not found in the Bible, it may well be true.
My experience has shown me that people help those who help themselves.
I don’t need your help, you don’t need my help, but know, I may call on you, you can call on me—there is no shame in that. There will always be people you can lean on, but use them as a last resort.
As we do things on our own, we come to rely on ourselves. We begin to trust in our ability to overcome. We build confidence, resilience, and character.